Here is how it goes:

You’ve got a goal, you get inspired, you make a plan and you start taking action. Off you go, things are great. Motivation and mojo are flowing.

Then IT happens.

You bump up against the place where you normally stop. The place where if you kept going, things would actually finally get to dramatically improve in the area you are working on. Gay Hendricks calls it our ‘upper limit problem’. He says that just like a thermostat, we all have a comfortable setting as to how much success, joy, wealth, love, etc. we allow into our lives.   When things start to approach that setting, we tend to start looking in what I call our ‘sketchy toolbox’, to bring us right back down to where we feel comfortable. (Square one).

What’s in yours? Facebook? Financial drama? Relationship problems? Addictions? Time? Stress? Self-talk? Think for a minute of what you use as excuses, time wasters and justifications for why you can’t make happen what you have been working on.

The quicker you recognize these sketchy little tools, the quicker you can move on.

The special clue: how to know that you are moving forward.

Once you know exactly what is in your sketchy toolbox, you have a great productivity resource. When you find yourself wanting to stop and go fishing in your box, this means you are RIGHT ON THE VERGE of an action that will change your situation. This is a huge realization!

The things in your sketchy little toolbox can actually support you, if you pay attention.

What I want you to do now:

  • Make a list of everything in your sketchy toolbox, and post it where you will see it. Not sure what they are? Start doing something you have wanted to do forever, and a few should pop up pretty quick.
  • Accept everything in your box. Accept that they are in your life, you are still ok, and you are going to move on anyway. Stop denying and battling against them.
  • Use them in a productive way. Know that when you are messing around in your toolbox, nothing is actually wrong, you are just in the middle of something good. Welcome this insight, and get in gear.
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You know how most articles on meditation describe it as an incredibly detailed, how-to process as if you were putting together a sofa from Ikea?

This is not that article.

While I think that learning a meditation technique can be important, what is even more important is finding something that works, for you, right off the bat. Trying to ‘round-hole-square-peg-it’ from the beginning is not a winning strategy here people.

Over time, your discipline with it will improve, but that is mostly due to the amazing results you will start to see in your life. (The better it gets, the better it gets).

I love my meditation practice. It clears my mind, reinvigorates my thoughts, and focuses my actions. Usually I get a whole host of thoughts and inspiration that I never would have had access to when I was bumbling around in clogged-energyville.

Good stuff, right?

Suck begins to creep into the picture when meditation becomes another thing on the to do list.

Tempting as it may be to throw it on the list along with the dentist appointment and laundry, it is actually something that belongs in a different list. The you list. The list that doesn’t suck.

My first meditation teacher told me that meditation is a process of releasing and allowing. It is the only time in your day where for a few brief moments, you are doing nothing but being. No one to impress, no wasted energy spend trying to look good or avoiding looking bad. Just you. Authentic, whole and calm. Chill.

But what to actually do during meditation? Hard as it can be to get your mind around, the answer is: Nothing! For once, you get to actually do nothing and be with yourself. And guess what? The more you hang out with yourself, the more of yourself you get to be! That’s the good stuff.